My mom and I make an effort to go and visit my dad and grandmother’s graves once a month or at the very least, once in two months. Although we know they are both dead and gone, we somehow don’t want to feel like we’re neglecting their memories just because they are gone. Both are buried at Warren Hills Cemetery in Harare.
The cemetery is meant to be maintained by the City Council but well, we all know they are not really doing much of anything these days. So my mom and I make sure we go and clean up my dad and grandmother’s graves and leave them looking well maintained (sounds a bit creepy I know but I’m sure you know what I mean!)
Now, what I find a bit disturbing is the state of some of the graves at this cemetery. They are literally falling apart. Some have imploded leaving gaping holes. With some you can’t even tell if there is anything there because of the weeds and grass that has over-grown and thus hidden the grave. I always wonder to myself where these people’s families are? Does it take that much effort for them to just regularly check up on their loved ones final resting places? Did they really love these people? Like I said before, I believe that when a person dies, they are dead and gone, so it’s not like you are hurting their feelings or anything by neglecting their grave. But still, come on people. Why not just respect their memory? I understand people live different lives and have different schedules. I understand that some may not even be in the country. Be that as it may, I still feel a lot of those abandoned looking graves are that way due to pure neglect. There are lots of grave diggers roaming around that cemetery who are willing to maintain the graves for as little as $10 or $20. Surely it’s worth it? It doesn’t even have to be a monthly maintenance, even quarterly will still be adequate to make sure the site looks respectable.
Maybe I’m the only one touched by this but I just don’t understand it. Just because someone is deceased and a pile of bones doesn’t mean they cease to be your father/mother/grandmother/wife/husband/sister/brother/child or whatever.
What are your thoughts on this?