I came across this tweet on my TL this morning and it pushed me to pen this post which has been chilling in my drafts for a bit. It’s really weird don’t you think, how society in general wants everyone to be the same. To do the same things. To look the same. To do things at the same time. As human beings, we might all be the same to a certain extent, but we’re also oh so different! So very different! Take this tweet for example. I’ve seen similar messages floating around social media for a while now. And whilst, yes, I absolutely understand the importance of and the advantages of being an entrepreneur, not everyone can be, is made to be or even wants to be an entrepreneur. Some people make really great lives for themselves being full-time employees and are very fulfilled too. Some can contribute to the economy and employ others by setting up their own businesses which is great. Neither is better than the other. Just do you boo! Don’t let society confuse you into taking a path that is not yours.
A few years ago I went to this women’s breakfast and the theme, if I remember correctly, was about “big hairy audacious goals” (BHAGs). We started the morning by introducing ourselves and telling the rest of the ladies what our BHAGs were for the next 5 years I think it was. Most people talked about the entrepreneurial journeys they wanted to embark on or something along those lines. This one lady said her BHAG was to buy a car (I can’t remember if she stated the make or not) and I think she said something about either buying a house or renovating her then current house. I was extremely annoyed with the hostess when she basically wrote this lady’s goals off and said her goals weren’t big enough and audacious enough. Errrrrm, excuse you? Who are you to tell someone else what their dreams and aspirations should be? Do you know what her background is? Buying that car could be one of the biggest things she has done in her life! Of course, I absolutely support encouraging each other to do better, especially if we know each other’s potential. But this business of wanting everyone to be the same in order to qualify them for some imagined measurement of greatness is just not on. A is not B is not C. Let everyone flourish in their own way. This also reminds me of people who want to shame (ugh, I can’t believe I’ve just used that social media abused word) women who genuinely want to be homemakers and take care of their families. Not all women want to be high-flying career women, climbing the corporate ladders to the last rung and burning up the boardrooms. Just because she wants to stay at home and take care of her family doesn’t mean she lacks vision and ambition. That is her contribution to the world and that is OK.
One of my favourite quotes is from Les Brown and it reads, “The graveyard is the richest place on earth, because it is here that you will find all the hopes and dreams that were never fulfilled, the books that were never written, the songs that were never sung, the inventions that were never shared, the cures that were never discovered, all because someone was too afraid to take that first step, keep with the problem, or determined to carry our their dream”. I agree with his sentiments and I think this is so probably because we care too much about what other people think. Most of us are afraid to be different. Most of us want to blend in. We do things we don’t really want to do and don’t do things we really want to do because “what will people think/say?”.
Guys, I’m here today to tell you f 😉 😉 k what people think. Everyone’s life is different. We all do not have to do the same things. We learn things differently. What is important to me may not be important to you. We do things at different times. What is important is to respect each other’s choices and to encourage each other in love. How many people do you know stuck in miserable marriages because they rushed to get married because they were convinced that “time had run out?” 🙄 You only have one life to live. You don’t want to mess it up living for other people. Trust me, there is nothing as freeing as not having the burden of constantly worrying what other people are thinking about you. I am blessed because naturally, I don’t really care what people think about me. It’s just the way I am. I’m always fascinated and sometimes downright worried when I see people doing things just to blend into society. You are unique! You are special. There is no-one else like you. Do the things that make you happy. Your way. At your pace. I promise you, you will be so much happier!
Do you boo!